What does Queen of Wands mean in love?

A passionate, self-possessed partner. Love that does not require shrinking.

That second phrase is the substance. She is not diminished by a partner's success and does not require anybody else to be, which is a specific and undervalued quality in a relationship.

Reversed, jealousy or a need for constant reassurance, which is the same intensity turned inward and is usually a response to something rather than a temperament.

As somebody's feelings, she reads as warm, direct and unembarrassed: this person likes you and has probably made that reasonably obvious.

Self-assurance and charisma. Lead by presence.

Sociable, generous, courageous. She holds a room without raising her voice and she knows exactly what she is worth, which is the quality people find either magnetic or difficult and rarely neutral.

In an advice position she says take up the room you actually occupy, which is aimed at people who have spent years making themselves smaller and calling it modesty.

Confidence hollowed into performance.

Jealousy, or insecurity managed by demanding attention. The reversal is the same brightness with nothing underneath it, and it is exhausting for her before it is exhausting for anybody else.

Also read for warmth withdrawn as punishment, which is her particular capacity for damage: somebody this warm going cold is a very effective sanction and it is rarely named as one.

Upright: confidence, warmth, charisma, courage, self-assurance

Reversed: insecurity, jealousy, attention-seeking, withdrawn warmth

• Where am I making myself smaller than I am?
• What would I do differently if I assumed I was welcome?