The Emperor and The Lovers

Authority drawn with a choice that is not the authority's to make. The tradition reads the pair as an external expectation pressing on a personal decision, and it is clear that the decision remains personal however much weight is applied to it.

Associated with family expectation, approval and the shape a relationship is supposed to take. The pair does not treat the expectation as illegitimate and does not let it decide.

Read for a choice being steered by somebody senior. The pair asks whose decision it actually is on paper.

Take the counsel seriously and keep the decision. Those are compatible and most people give up one to have the other.